Guys Washing Is Not An Option

I am back I know it has been awhile but let’s get this party started. Many of you know I am on Snap Chat which I think is stupid but its fun. The other day I was looking at some of my subscriptions and I saw an article from GQ. I still read GQ even though I don’t agree with much that they say or do these days. For those don’t know GQ is Gentlemen’s Quarterly, it is basically a fashion magazine for men. Getting back to my story, I am reading this post about “Fast Tips for Grooming”. The article explains how if you want to feel refreshed when you wake up in the morning you should wash your face. Really this is advice wash your face. I know I am old and was raised by very old fashioned Europeans but I was taught when you wake up the first thing you do is wash your face and brush your teeth. Do young men not do this? Why would a men’s fashion magazine tell you that washing your face is a good idea. Guys several things that you need to do everyday – Wash your face and I would suggest shower’s daily, brush your teeth, and for God’s sake comb your hair. Some of us don’t have any hair so brush yours.

Sorry Emma & Ryan you are no Fred & Ginger

Last night the Golden Globes marked the start of the awards season. You know the two months were Hollywood tells you how wonderful they are.  I will admit it I love awards season I watch E! Live from the Red Carpet and Fashion Police.  Last night’s event bothered me in two ways.  First I was very underwhelmed by the fashion and maybe for the first time in history the Men did better than the women.  The two best going to Justin Timberlake and Ryan Gosling.  Reese Witherspoon, Emily Ratajkowski and Hailee Steinfeld looked good as well.  I don’t know what Drew Barrymore or the fashion Icon Sarah Jessica Parker were thinking but didn’t work for me.  Second while the Globes (and all Awards Shows) always get a little political last night was way over the top.  To me it was watching a bunch of babies who were mad that they didn’t get there way.  I guess it’s kind of fitting the La La Land won everything, because that where Hollywood reside in LA LA LAND!  Sorry California doesn’t rule the United States, grow up and get over it.  I am also sick and tired of hearing about how hard they work please.  Dean Martin (Movies, TV, Music, and Live Performances) who was bigger than anyone in attendance last night was asked about how hard acting was, he responded “Acting is EASY, that why I do it, if you want to work hard deal blackjack for 10 hours that’s hard”.  It is a known fact that Frank Sinatra had much more respect for his musician friends than those in the movie business, because in Frank’s words “They are more Talented”.  Viola Davis several times said last night the she had to do her big speech 23 times.  Really?  23 Times? Good thing she is doing a movie and not theater where you only get one shot.  Lastly the golden screen couple of Emma Stone and Ryan Gosling, I just don’t see the hype over Emma Stone and while Ryan truly looked like a movie start and their movie won a record seven (7) Globes, I will part with this thought on their dancing – THEY ARE NO FRED AND GINGER!

Welcome 2017

I am not alone in welcoming a new year. Everyone seems to be thankful that 2016 is finally over. Wow 2017, the year 2000 was 17 years ago, how time flies. We lost some celebrities in 2016 but I really only want to speak about three to prove a disturbing point.   When Debbie Reynolds passed a day after her daughter Carrie Fischer a 20 something told me that they didn’t know that Carrie Fischer’s mom was an actress and that her dad was a singer. I said that while Carrie Fischer portrayed one of the most iconic roles of the 20th century she wasn’t near the star that her mother or father was. Then there was George Michael an Icon of the 80s and 90s these two claimed they never heard of him before he died. Really, I asked myself “what planet are they from”?

What is disturbing about this is we have a whole generation who doesn’t know anything about American Culture before Facebook. This and still is a great country, but we better realize the America didn’t start with Twitter, there is a lot of history and culture that is great that a generation doesn’t know about. It sad very sad, people forgot about Al Jolson, Duke Ellington, Miles Davis, Billie Holiday, Louis Armstrong. These two knew none of them. But as the final words in Rogue One when Princess Leia says “This is Hope”. These two still knew who Frank Sinatra was and I say to you THIS IS HOPE.

2016 A Very Interesting Year

A Very Interesting Year, Thank God it’s almost over

It has been awhile that I have posted anything. The main reason is it has been a crazy year for me with a lot of different things going on. The world outside my personal life has been crazy also, from Donald Trump, Leo, and Chicago Cubs winning sure made 2016 interesting.

Even though I haven’t been posting, I am still observing what is going on out there and I have to say things aren’t getting better and I am not talking about politics or the economy. This site is about personal style and preserving the culture of being a gentleman and teaching boys have to become gentlemen.

So, I am re-committing myself to this blog and will try to make bi-weekly posts and address topics that I think are important. Some of the topics discussed in 2017 will be:

  • Where Have All the Ties Gone? Why are men wearing suits with not ties?
  • Craft Beer – Let’s face it IT SUCKS
  • Bourbon Drinkers don’t be upset you will never be Tennessee Whiskey or Jack Daniels
  • There is No Nutmeg in my cigar
  • High Waters and Whacky Socks – When did PeeWee Herman become fashionable
  • Every man can wear a hat
  • Shoes, Shoes, and Shoes
  • It is about one thing LOYALITY

I want to wish everyone a happy holiday season and a happy new year.



The Death of the Gentleman

This is my first post since Frank Sinatra’s 100th Birthday.  I have been busy with audit season and just didn’t make time to blog.  However over the past few weeks, I have met several people through the course of my travels and they were asking WHAT HAPPENED? WHY HAVEN’T YOU POSTED ANYTHING IN A WHILE?  Today I was reading the New York Post (which I do every day) and an article jumped out at me and I realized that this silly little blog is actually important.  So I am going to make an effort to post at least weekly because young men out there need to learn how to be a gentleman.

“Pay Me Back Dates cheap-guy app” was the name of the article and it describes an app called Venmo that shares payment options (I really don’t know how it works or do I care). The article explains how men who went on dates with women were sending them Venmo’s to pay a portion of the bill for their date.  My first reaction was “what cheapskates”, but then I started to think “Why blame the guys? Isn’t it really society’s fault that guys (Guys not Gentlemen, because a Gentleman knows) don’t know they are supposed to treat the girl?  For as long as I can remember society and women have been bashing men for being gentlemen.  I have been criticized for opening doors for women, taking my hat off in elevators, and looked at like a nut because I stand when a women gets up from a table.  These were all normal things back in the 50s and 60s, but today they are frowned upon and not viewed as respectful.  It is natural that guys are confused as to how to act because women are inconsistent.  Girls go to clubs today dressed like sluts and wonder why guys stare at them. They get drunk and stoned and wonder why guys try and take advantage of them.  Girls, if you don’t respect yourselves then Guys won’t respect you either.  I have been talking about the Death of the Gentleman on this blog since its inception and while I believe the primary causes are that the young men today have no role models as how to act like a Gentleman and the music of today degrades women, maybe just maybe the death of the lady has played a bigger role in the Death of the Gentleman than I originally thought.  Girls, start acting like ladies and maybe guys will act like gentlemen.


We have been hearing all year long “Sinatra’s 100th year”. I have been thinking that I have to write something very special for Frank for his 100th birthday. What can I say about a man I never met who is arguably the biggest star there ever was that has not been already been said.   We have all heard the good stories, the bad stories and yes event the ugly stories. So what can I add to this man’s legacy???

The answer is NOTHING!

Frank doesn’t need me, but I sure need him. Frank Sinatra has had more influence on me than just about anyone who I have ever met and the closest I ever got to him was standing at his Grave last month. I never saw him live only heard his records and saw his movies, watched documentaries and read books. However I feel like I know him like we are friends and when I need advice, comfort, or just a pat on the back I turn to his library of music and I get the answer, comfort and the handshake I need.

So today 100 years ago on Monroe Street in Hoboken New Jersey Francis Albert Sinatra was born. Frank was a large baby and was actually not breathing until his grandmother put him under a sink and ran cold water on him. Boy the whole world needs to thank that lady. Later today I will be attending the Official New York City Frank Sinatra’s Birthday Party at Patsy’s on 56th street. So I will be there remembering Frank with my Pally’s seeing Sal & Joe and some other celebrities that will show up and have a great time, later we will hear some live tribute to Frank. But what does it all mean? What is so great about Frank Sinatra that 100 years later we are celebrating? The man died almost 18 years ago and every day during your everyday life you will hear Frank Sinatra sing! After the Ball Drops in Times Square at the end of every Yankee game its Frank. Countless scores in Movies have Frank in them. How does he still touch our lives? Old people love him, middle-aged people love him, young adults love him, and yes-even children love him. A career that lasted 8 decades and he has bridged the gap of many generations.

Why are so many America’s and the rest of the World so intrigued by Frank Sinatra?

  1. His talent let’s face it the man could sing and people have written many books on how wonderful his Voice, phrasing and timing were.
  2. He was self made – Nobody ever gave Frank anything he worked hard and had talent, caught a few breaks and made it to the top
  3. He wasn’t perfect – He made mistakes, he had many failures, after rising to the top of the music and movie industry he crashed and burned. At one point he was let go from Columbia Records and Louis B Mayer tossed him to the curb. Yet he persevered and he rose from the ashes to be bigger and better than he ever was.
  4. He did it HIS WAY – Yes we all know the Sinatra signature song, but what some don’t know he suffered and struggled because he did it his way. They wanted him to change his name it’s too Italian, he said no, they told him to change his life style, he said no. He lost fans, contracts, and friends but he stayed true to himself and in the end let’s face it HE WON!

So on Frank’s 100th Birthday raise a glass and toast the Greatest Entertainer that ever lived and remember IT’S FRANKS WORLD WE ARE JUST LIVING IN IT”!



Today marks the 82nd Anniversary of American Victory for freedom. It marks the only time a Constitutional Amendment was ratified for the purpose voiding a previous Constitutional Amendment! Yes today is Repeal Day and it real don’t believe me go to On December 5, 1933 the 21st Amendment was ratified basically stating that the 18th Amendment is herby REPEALED!!!!


The 18th Amendment was ratified on January 16, 1919 that stated:

SECTION 1. After one year from the ratification of this article the manufacture, sale, or transportation of intoxicating liquors within, the importation thereof into, or the exportation thereof from the United States and all territory subject to the jurisdiction thereof for beverage purposes is hereby prohibited.

SECTION 2. The Congress and the several States shall have concurrent power to enforce this article by appropriate legislation.

SECTION 3. This article shall be inoperative unless it shall have been ratified as an amendment to the Constitution by the legislatures of the several States, as provided in the Constitution, within seven years from the date of the submission hereof to the States by the Congress.

This was an attempt by a small group of American’s who wanted to control the behavior of the masses. Prohibition was a HUGE failure and I will not bore all of you with the list of its failures but just for starters organized crime and corruption were given legitimacy during prohibition. Thank God 13 years later it was repealed.

Why is this important today? Simple American Individual Liberties are being attacked everyday by the Politically Correct. How we eat, drink, smoke, and speak. Again I don’t want to turn this into a political blog, but today we get to celebrate Freedom’s Victory. So raise a glass of wine, a beer, or a whiskey and say thank you America for caring more about Individual Freedom than the special interest groups.

Today also marks the beginning of Holy Week for us Sinatra Fundamentalist. Today with Repeal Day, Monday Pearl Harbor, Tuesday Sammy Davis Jr. Birthday and the High Holy Day SATURDAY DECEMBER 12TH THE 100TH BIRTHDAY OF THE CHAIRMAN OF THE BOARD FRANCIS ALBERT SINATRA!


It’s been two years since I have updated my list and I thought it was time to do it again. Many of you that know me know I am a creature of habit and I don’t like change. That being said The Roof at Aretsky’s Patroon is still the champ at No. 1. Some of the staff is gone but the new staff picked up where the old left off and now that it is Autumn and not so hot The Roof will be even better. I am pleased to let you know that I have three new additions to my Top Ten and sorry all of them are above 34th Street. Coming in at No. 6 is Randolph’s. Randolph’s is a great blend of Old New York and Old Hollywood. At No. 8 is Monkey Bar. Monkey bar looks and feels like a scene out of Mad Men. At No. 9 the bar at Club Macanudo. The Club as I like to call it has a great staff and you can SMOKE! One honorable mention I would like to add is the roof top at the new Knickerbocker Hotel this is a great place and I am sure it will crack the top 10 for 2016. We also had some movers up and down so check out the complete list below:

  1. The Roof At Patroon’s – (160 East 46th Street) – Still Reigning Champ!! A small roof top bar at the top of Aretsky’s Patroon is a great midtown hide-a-way, with Great staff and Great Bar food (the best Pig’s in a Blanket & Onion Rings Anywhere).  Even though the Staff has changed they are still the best of anywhere period.  They know how to pour a drink and of course you are able to light up your Cigar after 2pm. It is a real credit to the owner and great gentleman and more importantly my friend Ken Aretsky
  2. Blue Bar – (59 West 44th Street) – Very Old School New York, located in the Algonquin Hotel (a NYC Landmark).  When you enter you step back in time to the New York City that I love and miss.  I have dubbed Christian the bartender as “THE BEST BARTENDER in NYC”.  His signature drink is his Old Fashion.  He remembers everyone’s drink and name.  A must go
  3. Bemelmans Bar – (35 East 76th Street) – Tucked inside the Carlyle Hotels is an old fashioned dark, low ceilings, great staff and great drinks.  Oh and by the way live Jazz nightly.
  4. King Cole Bar – (2 East 55th Street) – This New York City landmark.  Their signature cocktail is the “Bloody Mary” which is believed to have morphed from the “Red Snapper” which was served at Harry’s New York Bar in Paris.
  5. Campbell Apartment – (89 East 42nd Street Grand Central Station) – Another Old School Bar that has the charm of Prohibition era.  Make reservations it get very crowed
  6. Randolph’s – (65 West 54th Street) Randolph’s is nestled inside the Warwick Hotel this is a great old school lounge named after William Randolph Hearst who built the hotel for his mistress Marion Davies. The have real bartenders who know how to pour a cocktail.
  7. Carnegie Club – (156 West 56th Street) – One of the last Cigar Bars in New York.  Great drinks and atmosphere.  Cigar prices are a little steep, you can bring your own, but you will have to pay a cutting fee.  Saturday nights are the best.  Almost every Saturday night you can see two shows of Sinatra Saturday’s with Steve Maglio & the Stan Rubin Orchestra
  8. Monkey Bar – (60 East 54th Street) is another old school bar with great bartenders. It is a saloon that makes you feel like you just stepped onto the set of Mad Men. Great spot for food also.
  9. Cub Macanudo – (26 East 63Rd Street) The semi-private club has a huge circular bar reminiscent of the Original Toots Shor’s place on 51st. The staff is incredible they service is terrific and the bar tenders are getting better.
  10. The Bar at Patroon’s – (160 East 46th Street) – A small cool little bar on the ground floor of Aretsky’s Patroon.  Same Great staff as the Roof, but small quiet, great place for a business cocktail.

Things to Look Forward to for Autumn 2015

Now that Autumn in New York has started, here are some of the exciting things we are going to be doing this Autumn:

  • 2015 Top 10 List for Bars and Lounges in New York City
  • 2015 Top 10 List for Restaurants in New York City
  • Building your Autumn Wardrobe the challenges between wants and needs
  • Celebrating Sinatra – December 12th marks Franks 100th Birthday and we will be having special posts about the Chairman
  • Old School Vegas – Las Vegas is ever changing and not for the best,  follow my guide on how to do Vegas the way it was meant to be done “OLD SCHOOL”
  • I will always be starting an Old School vs New School and explain why the Old School is the better school and why need to get back to basics.
  • Cocktails why we need Bartenders and Not Mixologists
  • Proper Cigar technique – How to cut a cigar, How to light a cigar, and how to smoke a cigar

Please come visit the site often and look for updates.  In addition if there is anything you want to see or for me to write about please email me at and tell me.  I would love to hear from you all.



A Farewell to Summer

Today is Labor Day the unofficial end to Summer. Summer actually ends in about two weeks, but here in the good ole USA Summer ends with Labor Day. Which means a sad ending for most people but not for me. Yes I am sad that my seersucker suits and my spectators go in the closet until Memorial Day and some of my straw hats are gone until next year also. But with Labor and the end of Summer means it is now “AUTUMN IN NEW YORK”. Autumn in New York is the greatest time of year. With the cool nights means the roof top bars will be packed again people are coming back from vacation and we will all start working again.

The weather is the best it is all year; the colors of the leaves changing make Central Park magnificent. If you don’t believe grab lunch or dinner at the Central Park Boat House. It is by far the best time of the year for Sports, Football is back and nothing is better than College Football. I am so looking forward to Saturday’s with my boys watching the Fighting Irish of Notre Dame. Baseball Playoffs start, MLS Playoffs, and the start of the NHL season in October and the NBA in November. In addition if you enjoy international soccer (as I do) all the European leagues are in full swing. So enjoy all the sports, no time of the year has more sports to watch.

Yes in a few weeks all my straw hats go away and if is a sad time for me as I pack them up for the winter, however I have an equal joy and cracking open the boxes to bring out my fall/winter hats. Complete different look than the straw and I love them as well as my straw ones.

Autumn brings back the buzz to New York City vacations are over people are working again restaurants are full and the nightlife gets back to normal. Autumn is really a special time of year and it is my favorite season by far. When we meet someone during the Summer we always ask, “How is your Summer going?” I say we change that to “How is you Autumn Going?”

So let’s embrace this year and truly enjoy Autumn In New York and nobody can say it better than Ole Blue Eyes himself. Enjoy the song and enjoy Autumn in New York.